Typically newletters that go out in February have a theme of LOVE. The celebration of love, the joy of relationships and defining what love means to us. Not this one!
Instead, I have noticed that this month has been extremely frustrating for many of my patients, friends, colleagues and even myself.
Those frustrations seem to stem from the weather (seriously enough snow already), our inability to get outside and enjoy nature, feeling overwhelmed with busy-ness and perhaps a lack of connection with those people in our lives we SHOULD feel love towards.
We struggle on a daily basis to maintain some sort of control. This forced control leads to a sense of urgency and frustration. We lose ourselves in the many tasks that need to get done or the pressure we put on ourselves to keep it all together. The trick is to realize that NO ONE has it all together, do not compare yourself to those acquaintances you knew in high school on Facebook!
Like an animal caught in a trap, the more we struggle, the more pain we are in. Letting go can be the best course of action. Taking off the insane expectations we have of ourselves. Trusting that we are doing amazing things, just by being ourselves and to detach from the things that are frustrating us! The tight grip we hold on life, can be the exact reason why things aren't falling into place. The second we relinquish the need to control every situation, we allow MIRACLES to happen.
Simple techniques that break the struggle cycle:
1. Mindfulness - choosing to set an intention every day (even just as your driving to work).
2. Gratefulness - showing gratitude for the good in your life (there is always something)
3. Being present - we are so distracted by being connected through technology that we aren't focused on what's right in front of us. Turn off the darn cell phone
4. Breathe - Deep cleansing breaths really do slow your heart rate and bring down the stress hormone Cortisol
5. Meditation - recent articles have shown that meditation (even guided from YouTube) reduces the need for anti-depressant and anti-anxiety medication.
I'll leave you with this quote:
“The wise know that too much doing and a thing won’t get done. The secret to manifesting on the highest level is to find the perfect amount of doing and non-doing to allow the doing to be done. Sometimes much more can be accomplished simply by letting go and trusting.” – Jackson Kiddard